By D8 Knighter 

             Approaching a Man

 21st-century women are facing many challenges in the dating pool being one of them. It is a difficult place to swim. Women need to figure out so many things by themselves, from babies to evening meals for the family. 

Sometimes it gets overwhelming entering or re-entering the dating pool. 

We have listed tips to help you navigate the waters of dating and help you approach that man. 

•  If you are having a drink suddenly, there is that cute guy over the following table; you know you have a crush on him. First, you need to smile at him.  Not just  " a come hither " smile, but a genuine one. 
• Walk tall and be proud - trust yourself. You are a catch lady. Show it to him and be confident.
• Be kind - being rude can be a turn-off. Most guys admire kind ladies. Someone he will be proud to introduce to his mom and family. Most guys won't dig on bitchy chicks.
• Be remarkable - don't be a boring person. Guys love presentable and fun ladies. Let your guy know you have these qualities. In conversation, be creative and fun. You are not discussing boring topics only.
• Say something nice - everyone loves attention. Take note of his presence and give him a top attraction. Admire his dressing. A compliment about his shoes or his watch: that will always be an excellent conversation starter. Let the conversation flow naturally. Politely tell him your name and, in turn, request for his as well. At this stage, you can also give a brief detail about yourself and keep turning the conversation spotlight to him.
• Ask open-ended questions  - do not ask questions whose answers are yes or no. Questions that will keep the conversation flowing that need him to explain more are encouraged. You must pay attention and listen as he speaks. 

Turn-taking is very crucial too. Don't interrupt him unless you do it politely. Select topics outside weather and work to kick start a conversation. Topics like sports can be very helpful. 

At the same time, guys love to be able to help. Ask him simple questions. You can introduce your intentions in such questions. For instance, ask him, " Do you know where the pool cues are ? "  He is likely to take the bite. 

• Eye contact - maintaining eye contact is the most powerful way to convey their attraction. When you are with your crush, always maintain eye contact. However, be careful not to hold the smoldering kind - just time his gaze and keep it for a couple of seconds. 
• Be blunt. 

Without being brutally honest, let the guy know you think he is cute and would love to talk to him. Do it in the simplest way like " Hello …..". If a guy is interested is likely to lick up the conversation thread and make advance.

You must ask what you want. If you don't ask for sure, you might not get it. Do it moderately, and you don't want to seem too desperate or overbearing.

• Be upfront 

Again do not be cagey about your desires. You want his number to ask for it. If you don't feel comfortable asking for his number, offer him yours. Getting his number is not demanding for commitment. 

At the end of the conversation, let him know you had a great chat with him and could love to do it some other time.